In a village in the district of Jhang, there lived a boy who not only brilliant but also difficult. He was ambitious, an engineer. He strove hard to achieve his goal, and praised the second position in the examination board in the metric system. Then his parents forced him to join Premedical colleges accept them as they wanted to see her son as a doctor in the future. Although this was not his dream, he still tried to achieve a good position in the audit FSC.It 'appeared for the entrance examination, but not qualify in the entrance examinations to enter the Medical College. He had no idea what the reaction of his family was anything but sympathetic. Instead, it was very painful and hostile. Severely wounded and tortured by the behavior of his family, went into a state of severe depression. He ran away from home and came to Lahore. He had lost his reason to live and wanted to end his life. He killed his dreams and wishes only to carry out itsParents' wishes, but what he got in return only horror and disgust.
This is not just the story of this guy, but it is the story of a million people in our country. The millions we meet, see and know … Some of them are our sons or brothers. There may be the guardian and the parents of our children, but must allow them to dream and try to help them achieve their goals. Of course, we love our children, and go to the degree of fulfillment of their every need, but weThey also have to think on their own to make decisions on their own. Parents have the character of their children in a form so that your child never goes out of the way he does, not something that is wrong. We must try to teach them the good and the bad. But after a certain point, we must allow them to open their own way.
If you are a psychologist, ask what causes the greatest destruction of personality, he will tell you that, a dream unfulfilled cause big problemsbehavior and physical health of a person. Making decisions have been destroyed. A dream is something very important for us all. If you were to dream that weakens the personality. A child has the opportunity to dream and pursue her dream. E 'him / her to higher levels, otherwise he / she will be average or even fail. It will build the personality to build and maintain the character of a healthy person. And 'now proven that it is almost always excel in the field of hisChoice.
Each time our children need our help and support we need to be there for her, and counseling can teach them what to do, but never force our ideas on them, they never feel alone. We are here to realize our dreams. We need to dream for our children and pursue their dreams, even if it is not what we want. We all love our children very much, but we must help them, their happiness, not forcing them to do what we want, but always with them and help them ifThey need our support.
Most parents force their children to always consult a doctor or an engineer, so that live happily in their later life, but the "luck" is not a material thing, buy happiness for anyone to material gain. Happiness is a state of mind can do when we do what we want and can live up to our dreams. We help our children find their true self. We must allow them to think and walk on his own. I know a girlis a physician and currently teaches in a school of medicine. He earns a good salary, and is in a very respectable profession, but that was not his desire, and she is still dissatisfied. Your wish was to become a fashion designer, but was forced to do his MBBS, because his parents he wanted to be a doctor. Therefore, after returning from college, she goes to classes in fashion design. He said he feels that a large part of his life was wasted. She said she feels that she has notdone something in their lives. He feels that he "lived". He told me that if they do what they always wanted, only they will feel truly lived.
Every child is unique in the world, all have their unique abilities. As parents we must help our children to discover their skills, not to impose our wishes on them. It 's a famous old adage: "Happiness is a state of mind." Thus, the head is met only if it is allowed to do what you always wanted to hear.