Parents can play an foremost role supporting their child’s piano lessons and their piano teacher. However, about a third of parents do too much and try to take over accountability for their child’s progress, which hinders their child’s capability to create positive learning skills on their own. In contrast, about a third of parents don’t do enough, and fail to withhold and can get in the way of their child’s learning. The remaining 1/3 gets it right.
Take the witness below to find out which group you fall into.
1. Regarding your child’s progress, do you
a) feel personally embarrassed if your child is not progressing as fast as you think they should;
b) want your child to do their best;
c) feel that it doesn’t nothing else but matter how your child is doing, as lessons aren’t that foremost anyway.
2. When your child’s part is over, do you
a) come into the part at least five minutes before it ends so you can quiz the instructor about how everything is going;
b) pick them up on time and be ready in case the instructor needs to talk to you about your child’s lesson;
c) try to get back to the studio within 15 minutes or so of the lesson’s end and outline that the instructor will come out and talk to you if anyone nothing else but foremost is going.
3) Regarding bringing your child’s music books to lessons, do you
a) Send in other music books you would prefer your child play from;
b) Make sure your child brings them to their lessons;
c) outline that the instructor has extra books in case you forget to bring yours.
4) if your child is going to have to miss a lessons, do you
a) interrogate an immediate make-up part to get your money’s worth;
b) call the instructor ahead of time to try to reschedule if a space is available;
c) outline it’s no big deal and the instructor will outline out that your child isn’t coming when they don’t show up.
5) When your child plays in a recital, do you
a) cringe with embarrassment if they miss a note and admonish them later for embarrassing themselves;
b) encourage your child to do their best but have fun with it;
c) tell your child it isn’t foremost sufficient to attend.
6) Regarding your child’s weekly piano lesson, do you
a) insist that your child custom and know every song perfectly before the next lesson;
b) know what they should be practicing each week and keep track of whether they are doing it
c) don’t sweat it if your child doesn’t custom while the week.
7) Regarding the music that your child’s piano instructor assigns, do you
a) want to be personally involved in picking the songs so that your child will play your favorites;
b) think your child’s instructor is the best man to assign music that is approved for your child’s skills;
c) try to avoid knowing what music your child is assigned.
8) Regarding your child’s practice, do you
a) tell the instructor each week in front of your child that they aren’t practicing hard sufficient to make them feel ashamed and spur them on to greater effort;
b) make sure you are home sufficient so your child can set a pattern of habit custom and make consistent develop over time;
c) Feel that your child shouldn’t have to custom if they don’t want to.
9) Regarding your child’s progress, do you
a) correlate how fast they are progressing to other children you know;
b) Encourage them to do their best and discuss their develop periodically with their teacher;
c) Believe that develop is all relative, so why worry about it.
10) If you are involved that your child isn’t doing something right, do you
a) discuss it with your instructor in front of your child so they will know you are monitoring their progress;
b) discuss it with your child’s teacher, but not in front of your child;
c) don’t worry because it is the teacher’s problem.
If you find that you have answered “a” to some of these questions, you may well be taking Too much accountability for your child’s develop and can be viewing their develop as a reflection of your skills as a parent rather than your child’s own development. You may need to mellow out a bit and realize that your child’s piano lessons aren’t about you, but are a gift to them. If you find yourself answering “c” to some questions, you may well be abdicating part of your accountability as a parent and may be missing out on a extraordinary way to encourage your child’s success. If you find that you have answered “b” to most questions, relax. You are doing well as a piano